“A person’s a person, no matter how small.”
In general, being open and honest with children about what is happening is best. It is hard to do, but it makes it better for children in the long-run.”
For women with advanced cancer, worry about how their children may be affected can be a major issue. Although this site does not have detailed information to help with this, the links below may be useful.
Seize the Day Study Awards for young people affected by cancer. They are financial awards to help towards the cost of post secondary education, open to any young Queenslander aged 16-21 who has experienced cancer either personally or in their immediate family.
This is a site developed for children by the National Breast Cancer Centre, to provide information and resources.
“…a web site that can help you cope when a parent has cancer. You’ll find stories from other young people going through the same situations as you are. You’ll also find information and tips to help you understand and deal with what is going on in your family.”
Canteen is the Australian Organisation for Young People living with Cancer. If you click through the links there is a page for offspring members, who are young people (aged 12-24 years) with a parent or primary carer who is living or has lived with cancer.
The American Cancer Society has information available on the internet: “Helping your child deal with a cancer recurrence of progressive illness in the family”. It can be accessed at: www.cancer.org and typing in “Helping your child deal with cancer recurrence” in the search space.
The NSW Cancer Council has recently launched a publication: “When a parent has cancer: how to talk to your kids”. Although it is pitched towards early disease, there is a section on advanced disease. The book is available as a downloadable pdf file.